In today’s society there’s a plethora of resources on the fastest way to achieve a bikini body, the fastest way to cook a meal, or the fastest way to grow your brand. The fastest way to explain my point is that humans are incredibly impatient. With social media providing instant gratification, we’ve developed a need for instant results, and the same goes for developing a desire to instantly improve our relationships.
After all, who wouldn’t want a fast track method to cultivating a thrilling and loving relationship?
Prioritize Pillow Talk
Within our busy lives, sometimes going to bed together is the only time we truly get to spend alone with our partner. Even if you go to bed at different times, taking 5 minutes before you go to bed or when you wake up in the morning to share a moment with your partner can invite more love and appreciation.
Relive a Positive Memory
Whenever we recall a memory we often trigger parts of our brain that remembers what it was like to experience that memory in the present moment. Therefore, reliving a positive memory with your partner can reignite the positive feelings that you both shared. “Laughter reminiscence packs an additional punch because people relive the moment by laughing again,” says study author Doris Bazzini, Ph.D., a psychologist at Appalachian State University in Boone, N.C.
Try New Things Together
According to a 1993 study, on “Shared Activities and Marital Satisfaction”, found that couples who frequently try new things together have higher-quality relationships. These activities don’t have to be crazy extravagant either, as long as it’s something that the two of you have never done before. It can be as simple as trying a new recipe for dinner, vacuuming the house while walking backwards, or slow dancing to a song in the living room.
When in Doubt, Make Out
Lock lips with your lover when they least expect it, and be reminded of how thrilling and exciting it can be to simply kiss, even for just 5 minutes. According to Tardiff from Bustle, “kissing can help fight plaque, burn calories, boost self-esteem, and increase hormones like dopamine, which make you extra happy”. Now I’m sure we can spare 5 minutes for some extra kissing time.
Even if your relationship isn't on the rocks, trying one of these suggestions can help maintain and improve the quality of your relationship. Every relationship is different and may require different needs. If you find you are struggling there are plenty of relationship counseling options in Vancouver that can help you and your specific needs.
Blog post written by Yasmine Ross, Certified Relationship Coach and Content Writer at An Elegant Mind Counselling in Vancouver